The Bible tells us about how God is willing to forgive anybody who comes to Him, repents of their sins and asks Him to come into their lives and become both Lord and Savior of their lives. While what the Word of God teaches is right, and there are no flaws within the above statement, there is just one condition in which you cannot be forgiven. We can read about this one condition in the book of Matthew 6:14:
“If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.”
The one condition is that we refuse to show forgiveness towards somebody else who has offended us or hurt us in some way. This really goes beyond just simply forgiving them in your mind, you have to forgive them from your heart. This may be very hard depending on what they have done to you but, it is necessary that you forgive them if you want Jesus to forgive you.
Why is Forgiving others necessary for my Forgiveness?
Harboring unforgiveness towards somebody plants a seed of bitterness in your mind. Satan can use this seed of bitterness and hurt to grow a mindset of doubt and bitterness towards Christ. This bitterness as it is allowed to grow and as it is nurtured actually begins to draw you away from Christ and into your own world of anger, bitterness and resentment towards not only that person or people but towards God.
Galatians 6:3 “If you think you are too important to help someone, you are only fooling yourself. You are not that important.”
Pride is the root of all evil, it is basically the act of placing yourself higher and thinking yourself more important than others. When we choose to not forgive somebody, we (a sinner) are basically saying that we are good enough to be forgiven of our sins by the perfect spotless Son of God, but the person or people who have hurt us are not worthy or important enough for us to forgive them.
When we are under pride we are not under Christ, because Christ is selfless, humble and is always willing to forgive. He forgave you without even a question, it didn’t matter what kind or how many sins you committed towards Him. We need to get rid of the prideful attitude and forgive those who have hurt us, and let God be their judge. If we (a sinner) are too good to forgive another sinner, then why should we expect the perfect Son of God to forgive us.
Keeping unforgiveness towards somebody in our hearts is really like drinking poison and expecting the offending person(s) to die. This just doesn’t make sense. Unforgiveness is a poison that poisons your mind, body and thoughts. It is a slow working poison that will attack you from the inside and will work to make your life full of sadness, anger, bitterness, resentment and loneliness. In addition studies actually show that some physical and mental ailments actually stem from unforgiveness.
Be rest assured that in almost every case of unforgiveness that the person or people responsible for the offense are not negatively affected by the fact that you won’t or have not forgiven them. In fact the only one that is really suffering for it is you.
As the Bible states our forgiveness towards others is essential if we want God to be able to forgive us of our sins. It may be extremely hard and it may take some time, but I would encourage you to forgive your offenders from your heart. Give the offense to God and let Him take care of it instead of harboring unforgiveness in your heart.
God wants to forgive you of your sins and can forgive you of all of your sins, all He asks is that you come to Him, and that you humble yourself and forgive others. Take the offenses and lay them at the foot of the cross and then lean of God to get you through dealing with the pain and hurt that the offense has caused you.