Men all over the world have pointed the first part of this verse out, so as to remind their wives that they are the head of the relationship and therefore can do what they want, how they want, and when they want. While it is true that wives should submit to their husbands, we as husbands have to remember the second part of the verse where we are to love and respect our wives just as Christ loved the church.
You see marriage is all about give and take, or compromise for better terminology. A marriage is not about the wife and it is not about the husband, in fact as a wife you are to work wholeheartedly at blessing and respecting your husband, and as a husband you are to work at blessing and respecting your wife.
As husbands we need to remember that we are to be the head of our household just as Christ is the head of the church. This means that we have responsibilities as the man of the relationship to lead our wives and families in the way of the Lord. We are to protect them from physical harm on earth and from spiritual harm and attacks. We have the responsibility to ensure that we raise our kids up in a God fearing household, and that the decisions we make in our lives and families show consideration to your wife and or families best interests.
Although this Bible scripture can be mistaken for a verse that speaks about controlling your spouse, this view could not be further from the truth. God doesn’t want husbands trying to control their wives, and He doesn’t want wives trying to control their husbands. Rather God wants both to work together and show respect for one another in a way where wives feel secure and trust their husbands to make good decisions and husbands feel respected and supported in the decisions that they make.
Marriage is about a partnership and working as a team, not a power struggle for who’s in charge.